What Does Islam Say about Couples behavior on one another?
Assalaamu Alaykum dear brothers and sisters,
Starting a new family and maintaining an old family in itself has challenges and obstacles. However, as Muslims there are a set of behaviors and virtuous conduct that could keep our families together in peace and harmony. In this piece we would dedicate the view of Islam when it comes to having a successful marriage that knots together not only the couple that are husband and wife but also the rest of the family. In the Qur’an Allah says:
And of His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquility in them; and He planted love and compassion between you. In this are signs for people who reflect.The ROMANS, Verse 21
Off course if you think carefully and ponder you realize that Allah made it easy for the sons and daughters of Adam that everything that surrounds them is working favorably for them. However, this needs one to see it with an eye that is inclined to see the beauty of the creations of Allah. The truth is that Allah wants that our families succeed. even on the above verse Allah makes a mention of two ideas that will keep the family together. They are love and compassion. Truly Allah is aware of what we do!
Here are few suggestions that I would like to make for the Muslim men and women to keep their marriages happy and upright.
1. Command Prayer on your Spouse
One of the most amazing things in any Muslims life is prayer (Salaah) let alone a spouse. If a Muslim persons’ prayer is on the right path the rest of that person’s life is going to be upright. Allah says in the Qur’an:
And exhort your people to pray, and patiently adhere to it. We ask of you no sustenance, but it is We who sustain you. The good ending is that for righteousness.Surah Taha, Verse 132
2. Thank Your Spouse / Excuse for them
Sometimes what happens is that spouses make mistakes against their husband or wife and its easier for the other to sustain their healthy marriage by excusing to the spouse and cover for their mistakes so that Allah keeps them away from the punishment of the hellfire in the day of resurrection. The Prophet – May Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon Him- said:
Whosoever relieves a worldly grief from a believer, Allah would relieve one of the grieves of the day of resurrection.40 Hadith of Nawawi, 36
In addition we should be grateful to the good acts of our spouse and thank them sincerely for their kindness and value that they add to our lives daily. Because anyone who is not thankful to people would not thank Allah. For more advices on the healthy marriages in Islam please watch the following two videos.
Maintaining a Healthy Marriage, by Sh. Bilal Dannoun
Are you the Husband Allah Describes? by Sh Nouman Ali Khan
To be Continued…